Planeet: ferskil tusken ferzjes
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== Orale planeten ==
Fan guon oare stjerren kin waarnaam wurde dat dy ek planeten hawwe. Teleskopen binne net sa gefoelich dat dy by steat binne om in foarm sjen te litten, mar út ljochtôfwikings fan de stjerren binne de planeten ôf te lieden.
Oftentimes, on this thread, I see issues that can only really be solved by partner communication. Trouble is, for some people, it can be really awkward to talk needs with someone until you've established some level of intimacy...by engaging in sexual play. It's kind of a vicious cycle, but I have a method of communicating needs or desires with your partner that has proved quite effective for me, and I want to share it with all of you / receive some input from others who might use the same technique.
It's pretty simple. Start out, "I had a dream about you the other day..." Be a little sexy about it, and wait for them to prod you. Explain that it was a dirty dream, and if they seem interested, start describing a circumstance in which you are engaged in your ideal sexual play. "I had a dream about you the other day...it was kind of dirty!...Well we were...[Insert something you're interested in trying with your partner here]" If your partner seems into the dream, keep describing. Let it roll evenly into dirty talk and see where it takes you. Do not assume that just because you said it you can act on it; you'll often receive cues (either non-verbal or direct) from your partner that indicates they would be interested in "reenacting this dirty dream" with you if they are indeed interested.
For me, this fixes two problems with the "what I want in bed" talk. First, it makes it a little bit more comfortable for you to divulge things because...hey, it's just a dream, right? You don't have to fear the rejection because everyone understands that you're not completely in control of that level of consciousness. Second, it makes the talk a bit less accusatory for a more sensitive partner. It's not "I need this thing you haven't been doing," it's more, "here's an idea if you haven't thought of it already!"
While I want to affirm that nothing beats communication, and I agree that two partners engaging in sex should ideally be comfortable engaging in discussions about needs, wants, preparations, birth control, and all that jazz, I'm just a realist. Sometimes it isn't that easy, and this (while not a perfect substitute), might get the ball rolling and pave the way for more direct communication of needs from both partners in the future.
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